Rather good or bad, that person has a continual connection to the woman you are today. At this moment, no matter the outcome of your "popped cherry," I want you to say to him, thank you.
Because if you're reading my blog, clearly you are one hell of a woman :-)
If you are a mother, I hope you have already spoken to your daughter about the importance of her virginity? The last thing you want to do is decide to have that conversation with her and she has already given her "gift" away. Statistics show that girls begin to have sex around the age of 17. But I can walk down to the local middle school and say, "I see differently."
After giving your virginity how did you react towards him afterwards? Were you clingy, always thinking about him, feeling like jell-o, disappointed, what was your reaction?
The relationship a mother has with her daughter will create ripple effects of the relationship that daughter will have with her own daughter. The relationship your daughter has with her father will create waves of how she will feel about men. Daddy is a little girl's first true love, so it will be up to mom and dad to truly lay the ground work for how she should expect to be treated. If dad is not around, have a serious support system of adults that truly love her (grandparents, aunties, uncles, etc.).
Why do you think countless religions write about marrying a virgin (remember think about that question)? Do you think it was for good health, lol? Your vagina is a very special area that should be guarded with selectivity. Don't believe me, pay attention. Is it safe to say your body is your temple? Do you realize you have a few openings into your temple that you should keep guarded? Ever heard or seen the African proverb, Three Wise Monkeys, see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil?
Whats next, your anus and your vagina. We know what the anus does, what about your vagina? What great big wonders does the vagina offer? Not only is it the only natural way life can be brought into this world(which is a huge wonder on its own). It is a place of pure pleasure, ecstasy, and heaven for many men. Your vagina is also the largest opening into your temple (the main entrance).